This was inspired by the writing of my friend and fellow slicer, Britt, who wrote a slice about her hair. I started thinking about my own hair journey and this came to mind. Thanks for the inspiration Britt!
They tell me I should keep my hair long because boys find that attractive. They tell me I should "do" something with my hair -- blow dry, straighten, style. It's more mature, they say, it shows you care about your appearance. People will take you more seriously.
Of course, by "they" I mean my mom and by "people" I'm pretty sure she means men.
I haven't told my mom this, but I don't want ANYONE to necessarily find me attractive. I don't want a relationship like that or really one at all. Keeping my hair short is one of the safest ways I feel I can present as asexual without actually telling most people I'm asexual.
Of course, that's not the only reason I keep my hair short. I didn't even know that was part of my identity until a few years ago, my short hair actually came first. I haven't had my hair past my shoulders since college -- though looking back on it that IS when I started to question my own sexuality. College was the first time I went as a short as a pixie cut because I thought it would be fun to try. I told the hairdresser "Just cut it all off. I trust you to style it." And they did. After all, hair can grow back.
More recently, it's barely ever gotten longer than my chin and I would say right now it's probably the shortest it's ever been. It's usually my mom that suggests I grow it out, straighten it, or style it in some way. But it's not her hair, it's mine. It's so much easier now that it's short. I feel so free when I can just roll out of bed, put some frizz control or curl boost in it, and be done. 30 minutes to style became three minutes and I wouldn't trade that for anything.
I won't be growing my hair out any time soon. And as for straight hair, well...
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